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Virtual: Judith Warner, "And Then They Stopped Talking To Me" in Conversation With Beth Coyne

JOIN RJ JULIA BOOKSELLERS and Beth Coyne from The Country School FOR THIS FREE VIRTUAL EVENT.

And then they stopped talking to meThrough the stories of kids and parents in the middle-school trenches, a New York Times bestselling author reveals why these years are so painful, how parents unwittingly make them worse, and what we all need to do to grow up.

The French have a name for the uniquely hellish years between elementary school and high school: “l’age ingrat” or “The Ugly Age.” Characterized by a perfect storm of developmental changes—physical, psychological, and social—the middle-school years are a time of great distress for parents and children alike, marked by hurt, isolation, exclusion, competition, anxiety, and often outright cruelty. Some of this is inevitable; there are intrinsic challenges to early adolescence. But these years are harder than they need to be, and Judith Warner believes that adults are complicit.

With piercing insight and compassion, Warner walks us through a new understanding of the role that middle school plays in all our lives. She argues that today’s helicopter parents are overly concerned with status and achievement—in some ways a residual effect of their own middle-school experiences—and that this is worsening the self-consciousness, self-absorption and social “sorting” so typical of early adolescence.

Tracing a century of research on middle childhood and bringing together the voices of social scientists, psychologists, educators, and parents, Warner shows how adults can be moral role models for children, making them more empathetic, caring, and resilient. She encourages us to start treating middle schoolers as the complex people they are, holding them to high standards of kindness, and helping them see one another as more than “jocks and mean girls, nerds and sluts.”

Part cultural critique and part call to action, this essential book unpacks one of life’s most formative periods and shows how we can help our children not only survive it, but thrive.

Judith WarnerJudith Warner is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Perfect Madness: Motherhood in the Age of Anxiety and Hillary Clinton: The Inside Story, as well as the highly acclaimed We’ve Got Issues: Children and Parents in the Age of Medication. A senior fellow at the Center for American Progress, Warner has been a frequent contributor to the New York Times, where she wrote the popular Domestic Disturbances column.

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Tuesday, May 19, 2020 - 7:00pm
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$27.00
ISBN: 9781101905883
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Published: Crown - May 5th, 2020